Therapy for People-Pleasing and Boundary Burnout
You might be the one who adapts quickly, keeps things calm, and tries to make it easier for everyone else.
But it can start to feel lonely when you’re always the one adjusting yet your needs keep getting pushed aside.
In therapy, we’ll work with the guilt and fear that show up when you set limits, and we’ll practice boundaries that feel honest and kind
How we’ll work
You might say yes and feel resentful later. You might avoid conflict until you’re flooded. You might keep relationships stable by pretending you don’t have needs. You might be very “easy to be around,” but in reality you’re shut down or exhausted
We’ll look at the roles you’ve been living in, like the caretaker, peacemaker, achiever, the responsible one…
And we’ll look at what it costs you to maintain them.
We’ll practice direct communication, self-respecting boundaries, and ways to tolerate other people’s discomfort without losing yourself.
Because you can be kind and still be clear and direct.
What it’s like in session
Therapy with me is steady, relational, and down-to-earth. You don’t need the perfect words or a clean, packaged story. You can show up just as you are.
In sessions, we’ll pay attention to:
what you’re feeling (even if you’re used to pushing it down)
what your mind is doing (the loops, the rules, the pressure)
what your body is carrying (tension, restlessness, shutdown, “always on”)
Sometimes the work looks like talking it through. Sometimes it looks like slowing down, noticing what your body is holding, and letting your system finally settle. Sometimes EMDR is the right tool for a stuck loop that won’t budge with insight alone.
The point isn’t to “fix” you. It’s to help you come back to yourself… more grounded, more clear, and more free.
What changes…
More self-respect. More honest relationships. Less guilt. Less resentment. Taking up space confidently.
Ready to deepen your relationships and experience connection, while showing up confidently?
Overthinking FAQs
Will you tell me to cut people off?No, we’ll focus on what’s true, what’s workable, and what aligns with your values.
What if I’m terrified of disappointing people?Then we go gently and practically. We build tolerance for that discomfort and practice new responses.
Can therapy help with family dynamics?Yes, family patterns are often where boundaries get the hardest but also the most important.
What Others Have to Say
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Patricia is a compassionate, intelligent, authentic therapist. Creative and driven, she stays current with evidence-based practices and is dedicated to her clients' well-being. A truly caring and knowledgable professional that helps clients grow.
Gertie Mallard-Teal, Counselor, MS, LMHC, C-DBT
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Patricia embodies deep wisdom and takes a holistic, integrative approach to therapy. She fosters radical self-compassion and creates a healing space rooted in understanding rather than pathologizing.
Shaundra McGuire, Counselor, MA, Registered Mental Health Counseling Intern
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Patricia is a trustworthy colleague and clinician. She is warm, friendly, compassionate, and educated which shows in her work with her clients.
Julia Monte, Counselor, MA, LMHC